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Traveling Solo

Dating AdviceHere I sit. A blissful single at a four top table on a random Wednesday in JFK airport waiting with giddy anticipation for my flight to Costa Rica, a trip I am taking by myself. This is not the first time I’ve traveled solo, and I’m sure it wont be the last. In fact I hadn’t really thought much about it until a friend of my looked at me with awe and remarked, “You’re going to a foreign country… by yourself?” each of us looking at the other like she was crazy. “Why not?” I asked and answered, forgetting for a moment that most people link friends and family into their journey. But I don’t always have that luxury. If I waited for my friends to go anywhere, I’d never make it past Miami. And trying to coordinate folks is like running full speed into the wall, getting up, and then skipping into the wall, getting up, and then walking into the wall, until eventually you just bang your fists against the wall, screaming and cursing uselessly. And as far as family is concerned… well I won’t make that mistake again (Jeesus).

So it’s me. Just little old me  And for any woman who has considered taking a trip by herself, but hasn’t, I’m here to tilt you in the right direction. I’ll start with the positive. Here are some of the absolute best things about solo travel:

You can do whatever YOU want to do.
You make your own schedule and fill it however you like. You don’t have to rush for people, wait for people, compromise, spend money you don’t want to spend, or do anything that is not a part of YOUR agenda. That can be powerful.

Meeting new people.
When you’re with friends, you can enjoy their company which is great. But solo travel really opens you up to meeting new people, which may lead to new experiences that you hadn’t considered before. Two of my close friends I met abroad, both traveling solo through Eastern Africa. One was living temporarily in Ethiopia and I got the opportunity to experience a more real, non-touristy side of life in that region. The other woman I met during that trip was so excited about where she was planning to visit next, I was enticed into taking a detour from my original plan and joining her. One of the best decisions ever. The awesome and insane adventures we had during that trip would be perfect feed for a movie. (maybe I’ll write a short story).

Freedom from other people’s crap.
Now this I mean literally. You can avoid the stinky bathroom problem. You travel, you eat together, everybody has to sh*t at the same time. You have to suffer through someone else’s funk, or be the perpetrator yourself. Blech!

There’s something simply empowering about seizing upon your own opportunity, not waiting for anyone else, not needing permission, or being leashed together. Walking out strong and secure on your own into uncharted territory and focusing on your own thoughts, reflections and responses to new stimuli. It can be refreshing if you have the trust, faith and openness to really make the best of your time.

BUT…. There are always buts. So let me try to rebut the buts.

Danger. (lions and tigers and men… oh my!)
Let’s face it. Women face more danger than men. It’s most likely true that they are targeted more and taken advantage of more frequently. Keeping this in mind, keep your brain on ladies. Avoidance is key. DON’T PUT YOURSELF IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU ARE LIKELY TO BE OUT OF CONTROL. Don’t drink too much, don’t get in a strange dudes car, don’t flirt with guys unless you want to talk to them, and even then, don’t give away too much information. No one has to know you’re by yourself. Use your judgment. Use your gut. Be clear about what you want and you don’t want. Danger can be avoided.

This can also be avoided. Don’t stay somewhere ultra secluded. Strategically place yourself in the mix and find some friendly people to talk to. There’s always potential bubbling, open up to it. Tune into other people and see where you might jump in. And ladies, please don’t hate, talk to other women too.

Other people’s judgment.
Who cares what anyone else thinks.

More expensive.
With no one else to defray the costs of lodging, taxis, etc. solo travel is typically more expensive. Nothing I can really say about that one. You just have to deal with it or not.

So if you have the opportunity to travel, you have the time, you have the means, but you can’t seem to find anyone to accompany you, go with yourself. Try it. Do your due diligence first. Research the area, keep yourself safe, but don’t let your solo status stifle you, let your independence motivate you.

Simplifying Life with Motivational Quotes…

Motivational Quotes Video.
Sometimes in life, we need little succinct reminders. Brief and motivational summations that ignite a positive spark of movement and thought. Motivational quotes can give us the impetus we need. Like a little mantra, we can tuck into the pockets of our mind to remind us of what it all comes down to after all. The right motivational quote or inspirational saying can be a spring board of action to send us off in the right direction. Instead of becoming burdened by layers of thought and twisting ourselves into confusion, motivational quotes can offer us a lifeline of simplicity, compelling us forward into better space. Below are some of the motivational quotes that have been useful for me throughout my life.

Just Do It.

Okay, so in the world of great minds like Einstein and Nietzsche, how very cheesy that I would use a Nike slogan as a life transforming motivational quote, but there it is. In all of it’s square box clarity. Just do it. There’s no room for excuses here. There’s nothing left but action. So simple is this thought, so basic, pulling us away from our tendencies to over-think, to throw stones of doubt that cause us to stumble in our own path, to let fear in which devours the moment of action into shaky and uncertain inertia. No. Just do it. Put it out there, get going, this little mantra has helped me on countless occasions. Whenever the whispers of doubt begin creeping, I literally crush them with those 3 simple words. With those 8 letters strongly strung.

This motivational quote has helped me:

• Make friends (‘just do it’ starting conversations with new people)
• Travel by myself and experience new things (‘just do it’ booking the trip and letting the experiences come)
• Start a website (‘just do it’ putting articles out, writing daily)
• Change careers (‘just do it’ sacrificing enormous money for the plight of happiness)
• Get through unpleasant circumstances (‘just do it’ don’t wallow in what you have to do and waste time feeling burdened or annoyed, suck it up and do it. This is an attitude changer.)

That being said, are there times when this quote has gotten me into trouble? Absolutely. But if I take 100 steps forward, and have to take 50 steps back, I’ll still be farther along than if I never took a step at all. Plus, strangely, I have faith that the voice that springs forth commanding me to “just do it” is not going to put me in irreparable danger. This leads to another motivational quote that I found while researching the topic:

“Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.
Samuel Johnson

Just as there are many reasons to do something, so are there infinite reasons not to. But if you focus on that, you will do nothing. Seize the bull by the horns! Carpe Diem! With no risk, there’s no reward! All motivational quotes in the same vein.

“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

This motivational quote continues to remind me of the power of positive thinking and ultimate belief in ones self. That’s really all there is. That’s really all it takes. The same statement muttered under ones breath, or strongly clearly stated can have an opposite impact. It’s the conviction and the belief behind it that counts.

“Happiness depends more on the inward disposition of mind than on outward circumstances.
Benjamin Franklin

What a freeing concept to grasp! This motivational quote was electrified for me about a year ago. It was a sudden realization that happened for no apparent reason. I was bummed out for one reason or another (there’s always something, right?) and as I was pulling into my driveway, it dawned on me, that no matter what happens, if I have everything I say I “want,” everything my heart desired at that moment, I WOULD STILL END UP FEELING THE SAME WAY I DID RIGHT THEN! There would always be something wrong to ruminate, there would always be more to be had, there would always be problems and imperfections, NO MATTER WHAT! Soooooooo, what’s the point in being sad? What’s the point of being depressed? Nothing matters. External circumstances are not much, only your perspective counts. Powerful and true.

Other motivational quotes of significance:

“Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.
William B. Sprague

“We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

“To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.”
Albert Camus

“It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect It’s successful outcome.”
-William James

“I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”

- Martha Washington

“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
Albert Einstein

Sometimes motivational quotes take a while to be actualized, but it is worth tucking them away into your mind and referring to them whenever you feel the doldrums of life, the stressors tugging, the quick sands of worry and the mire of doubt stopping you from living the best life that you can. It’s all you after all. Don’t stop yourself, JUST DO IT.