|February 10, 2011||Posted by revelation under Evolution, LATEST, New Millennium Dating|
In the new electronic age of communication people don’t talk anymore. I’m learning to accept this. Sitting around with friends and everyone is wedded to their phone or their laptop. Incessant clicking replacing the banter of voices. But what about when you’re on a date? What level of phone interaction is reasonable when you are with someone to whom you are romantically inclined? Well, there are different situations in which people may use their phone.
You make the call: If you whip out your phone and start texting or emailing in the middle of a date with someone, you’re basically saying to that person, ‘there are other things and people way more important than you right now. Matter of fact you’re boring me so much, that I must immediately check in with said other people or situations.’ This is just plain rude. Whatever it is, it can wait.
You take the call: If your phone is chiming and you glance to see who it is and what it is, taking only a moment to read the screen, then it is only a moment of rudeness. Better, but it still sends a message to your date that better things may be on the plate, and your interest is still diverted.
On the other hand, if you engage your calling phone and start to respond, it’s just as rude as whipping it out in the first place because it completely subordinates your date to whatever is going on in the phone.
The business call: Probably the most acceptable of the three, but should be mentioned beforehand and minimized as much as possible.
Considering cell phones were only really popularized about 10-15 years ago, the evolutionary stage of the cell phone seems super advanced. For some people, phones have become an appendage to their hand. An extension of their very being. An obsession, or an addiction, hence the crackberry. Phones for many seem attached to ego. Another way to demonstrate some sort of prowess, a level of importance. On dates some use phones to show off, others to hide and avoid. Either way it is RUDE!
I’ve had men on dates explain their calls or texts to me as they indulge in them (like I’m their jealous girlfriend). I don’t want justifications, I’d rather have courtesy. Guys and girls alike, why is it so hard to just put it away and focus on the person you’re hanging out with? Show the date the proper respect they deserve! At least until they don’t deserve it… I know we’re in a super high tech age of rapid downloading through complex and diversified media and dialogue through video streamed high speed communication but c’mon man, some things are just plain simple…